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There are two ways to improve the good luck / bad luck ratio in your life. One is to take steps to do those things that lead to more good luck. The other is to stop doing the things that cause bad luck. This lesson is about the latter. It is an examination of the actions, habits and thinking of unlucky people, so that you can learn what to avoid.

Six Things That Cause Bad Luck

1. Blaming. Blaming others - even when it is justified - is one of the most de-motivating things you can do. It puts things outside of your control and so things tend to “happen” to you even more - and sometimes these are bad things. It is fine to acknowledge that someone shares some blame for a situation, but then follow that immediately by asking yourself, “What can I do differently next time?” Put the control back in your hands.

2. Making Excuses. Really just another type of blaming, this bad-luck habit is often more subtle. For example, a real estate agent says, “I can’t sell enough homes because I don’t have the contacts that others have.” This might be 100% accurate. The solution, though - developing more contacts - is then ignored, because the real reason to say this was to justify his unsuccessful habits. Saying, “I know I can sell more homes by meeting more people and making more contacts,” is certainly more likely to lead to good luck (success) than the first statement, right?

3. Waiting For Luck. This is perhaps one of the worst bad-luck habits. Work invites luck, not waiting. While one man waits for his “ship to come in,” others are building ships. Unlucky people just wait, and let things happen - for better and worse - and so miss out on the many opportunities that are out there waiting to be seized.
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In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.

1. Pay attention to your breathing.

When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.

2. Live in the moment

Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.

3. Visualire Peace

Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.

4. Be curing and sharing person

When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.

5. Do not skimp on sleep

Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.

Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.

About The Author
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by: Niquenya D. Fulbright, Executive Life Coach

How many times have you made up your mind to do something you really desired to accomplish but came up against much discouragement from friends and family? You decide to quit your high-paying job with paid company benefits in pursuit of your dream career only to be met with a thunderous chorus of “you had better not!” These loving beings, whom only have your best interest at heart when they furiously nod their heads in dismay at your latest inspiration, can make it extremely difficult to put that first foot forward in the direction of your goal.

We often internalize the views and opinions of the naysayers in our lives leaving us stagnant in our progression towards happiness. We stay at the dead-end job, accept the cards that have been dealt to us and allow ourselves to become complacent in our present life positioning. But why? Do we find this nonchalant tradeoff for contentment in lieu of our ultimate dreams truly gratifying? In most cases, the answer is almost certainly no.

Defeating the negative noise is a must if you plan to really live your best life. You have to learn how to listen to your own inner coach. It is that tiny voice inside yourself that is constantly debating the various choices that have been laid before you. This self-talk is influenced by your personal morals, values and experiences as well as those of the individuals who share your environment. When you are posed with any type of decision, you must first identify whether or not the origin of your self-talk is really coming from you. Although you should value the opinions of those whom you love and respect, you must consider the underlying reasons behind their disagreement with your chosen path. It may seem harsh, but if these individuals are not where you want to be, why should you listen to them? Successful people get successful by surrounding themselves with those who are already succeeding.
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Have you ever experienced a time in your life when everything seems to be going wrong for you? You probably have. In fact you may even be going through such a time now. Don’t worry. All is not lost. There are steps you can take to push through the gloom into sunshine.

One thing that I understood well was that I had to push through those hard times in order to experience the great times. So I came up with a little motto to help me do just that. The motto goes like this.
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In his book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” Dave Carnegie said that humans hate negative criticism.

At that time, I thought it was just emotional stuffs.

However, negative criticism does not only hurt emotionally but can also hurt your interests realistically.

Most of negative criticisms are not true. Even if it’s true, it’s not worth paying attention to.

John Maxwell said that we should spend at least 70% of our time on our strengths and only 5% on our weaknesses. Negative criticism puts too much of our attention on what we’re weak at.

If somebody tells David Beckham, a great soccer player, that he’s such an idiot because he can’t play golf, do you think David should pay attention to that and learn golf instead?

We probably cannot improve too much the points that we’re weak at anyway. Moreover, by allocating resources to improve our weakness we’re taking away resources that could have gone to improve our strength.

However, the world is full with so many people that would rain down negative criticism to their neighbors.

These acts are often justified by strange fairy tales. For example, the purpose of school is to create a whole well-balanced new human being.

Implicit in the idea of “whole” and “balanced” is, of course, the idea you should improve your weakness.

If it doesn’t serve you to listen or pay attention to negative criticism, why are people uttering it?

Envy.

Many people, out of envy bigotry do not want you to be successful. They want to stop you from being successful.

Imagine if a male makes a lot of money and attracts many females, the other males will not get any and would go extinct, right? Hence, so many males have strong preferences to prevent you from getting rich.

They come up with various ways to trick or force you from the one “all right” path you have chosen to success.
One way to do it is through frivolous negative criticism.

Ignoring criticism will not become a straightforward silver bullet. However, it would work quite well and a good advice enough for an article.

About the Author:

Jim Thio is a silver medalist in International Physics Olympiad. He’s learning evolution theory to understand humans nature and make humans happier. He visions a better world where the productive make more kids and the parasites get more cash.
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