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Having supreme confidence and power in dealing with people seems like a skill that only the masters of interpersonal relationships and persuasion would be good at. But you would be surprised to know that there are simple tricks to get to the point where you could have a firm confidence and power in dealing with people.

Of course, everything that needs confidence and power needs to come from within. Thus, it is only logical that you must first be confident in general if you want to be confident in dealing with people.

If you notice, the most assertive individuals are those who know themselves well. Thus, the road to confidence and power in dealing with people starts in knowing yourself. Knowing yourself is a function of knowing your capacities and limits. When you know these, you would have confidence in yourself, and that would consequently practice the habit of being firm with yourself and with people.

Asserting yourself is a practice and habit of one who is confident in dealing with others. Unless you are assertive, no one would believe your authority.
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We’ve all been down in the dumps, experienced what it’s like to be small and insignificant, and the last thing you feel capable of doing is facing the giants in your life. If you’ve never known or never encountered any of these emotions on facing the giant odds of life, you’re either in denial, criminally lucky, or just a plain old freak of nature. By ‘facing the giants,’ I mean the myriad difficulties and sufferings you must overcome in order to get where you want to be.

There is a video of the same name on youtube.com/watch?v=-vB59PkB0eQ, showing a high school football coach motivating his less than enthusiastic star player to give his very best and go all the way.

Brock, the quarterback, is made to do the dreaded ‘death crawl,’ an intense workout where he must crawl up the field with a teammate in tow, laying on his back. The boy says he can go no farther than thirty yards, and the coach does something rather unorthodox—he blindfolds his player and insists that he can, in fact, do fifty. Brock reluctantly complies, protesting the whole time, but the coach offers only words of encouragement. “Don’t quit! Keep going!” he says, getting down on his hands and knees as well. And keep going Brock does—all the way to the end zone.
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by: Ab van Deemter

Two people look at a glass which is half filled with water.

Are you the person who sees a glass that is half empty or do you see a glass that is half full?

We have a lot of choices in life. We can choose to look at things the negative way and always see the dark side of situations, or we can choose to be positive and live a happy and fulfilling life.

Why is it so important to live a positive and optimistic life?

Of course it is important to live a positive life, because it is so much more fulfilling. Optimism is synonymous with positive mood and good morale. It is also linked to athletic and academic success, to success in career and politics, to better health and longer life and moreover positive individuals are much more attractive to people than negative people are.

Now, I hear you thinking. The rates of depression and pessimism amongst people have never been higher than they are today, no matter the age group. These days it is affecting older, middle aged and younger people all the same way.

Although it is not the easiest thing in the world to change in our life, it is important to realize that being a pessimist instead of an optimist is a matter of choice. We can choose to be positive or negative.

So, experience how the self motivation tips hereunder are the key to change. Do some self motivation exercise so that after a while you acquire the necessary self motivation skills in positive thinking.

Recent studies have shown that positive people are hit by the same hard smacks in life as do the negative people. The difference is just in the way they deal with the pain that comes from these smacks.

Positive and optimistic people tend to be convinced that these moments of pain are temporary set backs and that these events are in their lives to learn a lesson from, so that they can grow, while negative and pessimistic people tend to believe that unfortunate events have an influence on everything they do in life and they are convinced that such situations will last a long, long time. Besides they either tend to think that such events take place, because they always befall to them, or because it is all their own fault.

Positive people sooner perceive these negative events as challenges or opportunities and they get stimulated by them to try harder. You will never hear them say things like: “That is always happening to me in my life and it’s never going to change” or “Everything goes wrong as usual and also this time it will definitely effect other area’s in my life”.

They believe that when such statements are actually being expressed they will work as self-fulfilling prophesies and they refuse to put this energy out ahead of them.

Positive people are hardly ever manipulative people and they appear to be far less dependent on others for their own happiness. They have the natural talent to draw people towards them, because they are surrounded with positive, balanced and cheerful energy.

Negative people tend to react strongly to stressful events, by denying that stress is bothering them. Moreover negative or pessimistic people tend to avoid dealing with their negative situations and they give up more easily when problems or difficulties arise.

Positive people on the other hand are much more stress resistant. In general positive people are perseverant and they don’t give up easily. And it is in this way that they seem to get closer to their dream or passion each step of the way.

Medical research has shown that positive people have an unusual good health and that generally they age well, without having to go through the illnesses that middle aged people tend to go through. Their bodies appear to have a much higher stamina level and a better ability to fight disease and they usually get older than the people who allow their lives to be lead by negativity.

All in all, when you are not such a positive and optimistic person, there is every reason to learn to become one.

Remember it is all a matter of choice!

Each and everyone of us hits ebb-tides in life, but it is your choice whether you want to stay in that place, or not.

Find the positive message in each negative experience. There always is one!

Finding this positive lesson will open your world again, so that you can create new focus.

By letting go of your negative ideas of your internal struggles you find new inspiration.

Get up and get back on track! Keep a positive goal ahead of you in all your endeavours and challenge yourself to see difficult situations as opportunities, instead of allowing them to bring you down.

I hope this article is of value to you and I really hope it provided you with some new insights.

The above mentioned self motivation tips are the key to your growth. Therefore I recommend you to have a good and conscious look at your life and if necessary to do some self motivation exercise in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.

About The Author
Ab van Deemter (http://www.passiontogrow.com) is a Personal Growth specialist and a spiritual person, who believes in sharing his knowledge of personal perseverance. He has studied metaphysics and other holistic methods for many, many years and embarked on a life of success. With successful tools for personal freedom he has made it past a life full of obstacles and now mentors and teaches business owners, their staff, his own employees, as well as a large group of private individuals.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

- Viktor Frankl

Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.

It is more vital than events. It’s more important than what’s happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude- the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.

Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:

1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
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Procrastinating can be fun, sometimes!  It can also be a great source of frustration and anxiety when we keep putting off what we could be doing today.

I manage to fit unscheduled shopping sprees into my already busy timetable, visit people I haven’t seen for awhile or give them a ‘quick’ phone call.  Sometimes I’ll even clean out the refrigerator, wardrobe, and any closet or room in the house - well they need cleaning and sorting sooner or later!  If I had a dog I’d probably take it for a long walk, maybe give it a bath, clip its toenails, place ribbons in its hair – procrastinating can be fun!

 

The word procrastinates means to defer action, or put off (I’ll add dawdle and ‘hope it goes away’ as well).  What’s interesting is the cras (adv) in procrastinator is the Latin word for tomorrow.  To me this snippet of information means procrastinators have been around for a really, really, really long time!  Wonder what strategies they applied back then.

 

When I drag my feet, and keep putting something off, at the back of my mind is a flicker of hope that someone else will step in and do for me what I’d rather not (like my accounting paperwork!).

 

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