James Smith’s Info Serv

There is not a human being who has no worries. Some of our worries are small, and some are big. But every day, there is usually one worry that bothers us through the day. The problem is that we often do nothing about it. Yet if we were to do something (even taking a minor action), it would reduce the worry considerably. Here is a 7-point, step-by-step method to reduce or eliminate your major worry today. 1. Write it down. Don’t just let the worry rattle around in your brain; get it down on paper. And make it specific. No matter how big or small it may seem to others, what - specifically - is your biggest worry today?

2. Make a list of 3 to 10 specific, practical actions in the real world that you could take to do something about it? Now, pick one of those steps that you could actually do today, and write it down.

3. Take a nice comfortable breath, like an ordinary, everyday sigh. Pay careful attention to the relaxation it creates. Now focus that attention completely on that one action step you just wrote down.
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1. Change Your Outfit Change Your Outlook

Giving yourself time to enjoy what tickles you and only you boosts your confidence. Needlepoint, making Jell-O molds, playing an electric organ…do what pleases you.
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Part of success in life is how well we deal with stress. The beauty of this is we can learn to deal better with stress so it is a life skill we can improve. No one can make us do anything. People and events do not cause us stress; it is our reaction to what happens that can or cannot cause us stress. The beauty of this is that we can choose to control our reaction. The following are eight ways I deal with stress:

1. I figure out what I can control. Stress for me is caused by situations that are out of my control. Even if this is the case, there is always something that I can do that is within my control. For example, I cannot control currency fluctuations but I can take actions that cause them to have less financial impact on me.

2. Stress is related to problem solving skills. I work on my problem solving by writing the problem down. Just the simple act of writing it down tends to help with the solution and also helps reduce the stress.
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As a Coach, I hear the term “success” a lot. I’ve even been known to use the word myself from time to time. But lately I’ve been pondering what it actually means. What do people mean when they say “he’s a successful writer” or “I want to be a successful working mother”? The dictionary defines success as: 1. Achieving or having achieved success 2. Having attained wealth, honors, position, or the like 3. Resulting in or attended with success.

Well, that solves it, huh? Really, what does this mean? According to these definitions, being “successful” means you’ve accumulated a large amount of money, or you’ve managed to solidify some arbitrary level of social status. But how do you measure these things? And does this mean that we can be successful in all areas of our lives, or just in our careers?
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There are two sides to anger. On one hand it can be the cause of tremendous pain and suffering. It can turn into hatred or violence in the blink of an eye and destroy everything we love and care about, or it can turn inward and become bitterness and despair. The later of course just eats us up from the inside until we break down or break apart. The master key to understanding how to prevent your life from being like a roller coaster ride of emotional upheaval that anger inevitably brings is that when anyone is angry what they are really saying is, ‘I don’t feel loved and accepted’.

By remembering this simple fact the next time someone you know gets angry, you can turn it around for them instantly. All you have to do is help them to feel loved and accepted. This might mean asking them questions to find out what’s upsetting them, or giving them space to vent their feelings, or even just listening to what they are saying and not giving an opinion unless it’s asked for.

Don’t expect that this will be as easy to do with yourself. If loving and accepting ourself was that easy wouldn’t everyone be doing it?

Here’s some more secret’s to getting rid of anger:
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