Body language is a critical element in how one is perceived by others. It can affect job interviews, winning a client, or even making it to a second date. Our posture and gestures project a positive/negative energy that gives observers cues to how we may think or feel. Its how your friends know something is wrong without even asking. Because we are not often aware of our body language it’s easy to unintentionally send the wrong message.
I was recently lost in a new part of town. I saw a woman coming down the street, but I was hesitant to ask for her help as she looked very cross. With few people in sight, I had little choice but to approach her. When I spoke to her, the transformation was magical. Her slumped shoulders shifted, and with kind words and a smile she told me everything I needed to know. I left thinking to myself how I could have almost passed her by. The unfortunate thing is that many opportunities can pass us by because not everyone will stop to take a chance. You can’t run after your boss screaming “Please give me that promotion! My body language reflects negative energy, but I’m really a nice person!†Look at the examples below, which employee would you promote?
Employee #1 Making eye contact, relaxed unfolded arms
Employee #2 Avoiding eye contact, crossed arms
Quick Tips:
Before you walk through a doorway, pause and become aware of your body language. Are you slumping? Are you frowning? Your existence on this earth is not by accident. You have a right to be here, a right to be respected, and your posture should reflect this. When you walk your back should be straight, head up, and energy in your step. This simple motion will create a positive energy that’s contagious to those around you, as well as reflect inner confidence.
Author Lakeysha Green is a professional fashion stylist. You can read more of her free fashion & style tips and receive a free makeover sampler at http://www.beautybodystyle.com
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