James Smith’s Info Serv

Born to Win
You were born to win. Your creator has given you everything you need to be happy and successful. You can change your life. You can change from being average or above-average to a winner. You can achieve ultimate happiness and success.

A total winner enjoys success with work and love. A total winner is someone who is having a great time achieving vocational goals and personal and family goals. A total winner achieves ultimate happiness and success.

Your Internal Messages
Today’s eZine will help you understand what may be preventing you from being a total winner.

Do you remember your parents and other important people saying personal things about you? I vividly recall my beloved aunt Julie looking straight at me with her vivid blue eyes and saying, “You can be anything you want.” I know that has been a strong positive influence throughout my life.

I also remember my stepfather telling me many times, “Don’t get too big for your britches.” This also has influenced my life, but in a negative way. Negative messages like this are called injunctions.

Some injunctions are less direct. Families may say something like, “Our family has always been members of the working poor,” “Women belong in the home,” or “Business people are just money grabbers.”

You also tend to treat yourself like your parents treated you. If they were kind, encouraging and supportive, even when you made mistakes, you will treat yourself the same way and feel good about yourself. On the other hand, if your parents were harsh, critical and demeaning, you will tend to do the same thing to yourself and feel badly about yourself.

Feeling badly about yourself hurts your self-esteem. In my previous newsletters, I explained how high self-esteem correlates with high achievement.

Do you feel like you are still being influenced by negative messages from your family? Your negative messages create self-defeating thinking and beliefs. They will stand in your way of achieving ultimate happiness and success. To overcome their influence, you first have to become aware of them and replace them with positive messages. This is not an easy task without the help of others - a professional trained in this area.

Freeing yourself from the influence of negative messages is essential if you want to have a positive self concept that empowers you to be a winner.

Summary
You were born to win, but negative messages from parental figures can block you from your birthright - ultimate happiness and success. You need to become aware of these messages and take steps to replace them with positive messages.

© 2006 Stan Mann

Stan Mann, C.P.C. supports business owners, top executives and commission salespeople to substantially grow their business and have a balanced life. He is a Certified Professional Coach. For additional articles and resources, please visit http://www.stanmann.com.

Most of the promises we break are the promises we make to ourselves. In some cases, broken promises can become almost “second nature” in the sense that we fail to realize the seriousness of the problem. Take a minute to think about the promises you made to yourself this week and have already broken. Remember the day you committed to “no more sweets,” then a co-worker celebrated their birthday with a delicious cake from your favorite bakery? How could you possibly hurt everyone’s feelings by not celebrating with the rest of the gang? You couldn’t, so you indulged! Remember that promise you made to yourself about not putting any additional purchases on your charge account until you paid off the already too high balance? Then there was the “too good to refuse” once-a-year-sale at your favorite high-end clothing store? How could you pass up a fabulous new outfit at that price? You couldn’t, so you bought it! The power of rationalization has become an all too familiar tool for justifying our choices- good or bad.

We may not consciously realize it, however, when we rationalize our behavior to make ourselves feel OK, our integrity suffers. Rationalization is the tool we use to convince ourselves that our actions were “not that bad” if we’ve deviated from our original plan. Try this exercise whenever you find yourself rationalizing: envision a big red flag signaling that you are “out of integrity.” The more self-aware we are of our actions, the more we expand our consciousness. As a result, we are called upon more often to play a bigger role in the world. Staying aligned and “living in integrity” is key. We have a responsibility to our core values for the greater good of all.

Integrity means a firm adherence to a code of values. It is not easy living totally and fully aligned with the values we establish for ourselves, yet it is very important we create a firm, clear “base of integrity” and make our choices from this core base. Most of us would say we are committed to telling the truth, keeping our promises, respecting others as well as ourselves and to arrive each day fully prepared for life. And yet, we often compromise ourselves, our personal value and, our integrity when we make choices based on the fear of disappointing someone else.

When we base our life on pleasing others, we create entangled, confusing relationships. Lines of communication become blurred, resulting in misunderstandings and misinterpretations. The more out of alignment we become with our true self, the more our emotions become buried or exaggerated. Life becomes more and more challenging and less and less satisfying. We become resentful and mentally exhausted, yet we can’t really explain why. When we don’t feel good about ourselves, our life’s situations and the people around us, we feel drained and confused. Our “life force energy” supply quickly becomes depleted.

Living in integrity
Life is “energy in motion.” When we live in integrity and align ourselves with a higher awareness of the Self, our energy flows freer. We become more authentic and live life as dynamic and powerful human beings. Our inner alignment is reflected in our outer affairs. In essence, we reflect what we project. We feel good about ourselves and others feel good about us. When we live in integrity, our energy flows with more abundance. We are more in tune with our intuition; we hear the inner voice as the voice of our Higher Self. It speaks over the “mind rationalizing” voice. We are better able to use discernment in our interactions and dealings with others. Others respect us because we respect ourselves. They get a “good feeling” about us. Instead of viewing problems as negative obstacles, we embrace them as opportunities. It becomes easier for us to call on creativity when we need the perfect solution to any given situation.

Take responsibility
Life changes when we become clear about our priorities and take responsibility to align ourselves on the inside with our core values. We are more fully integrated in mind, body and spirit. Our energy becomes more clear and powerful. We are aware of our emotions and know how to consciously “feel” our feelings and express them appropriately, rather than express them on reactionary or pent up emotion and frustration. We let go of regrets, shame and guilt about our actions. Worry, fear and anxiety lesson as we release the need to manipulate the world. Our communications become more clear and are expressed purposefully because we are confident, clear and focused in our intentions. We become better listeners, validating others’ perceptions and feelings without judgment or criticism because we have less filters analyzing words, tone and body language. We connect with others more intimately because we are more connected intimately with ourselves.

Making apologies
When life feels out of control, let it be a signal that somewhere you are “out of integrity.” When you arrive late for an appointment or forget to return a phone call, offer your sincere apology and quickly clear the air. “I apologize” is enough said. There is no need to explain, rationalize, and make excuses or promise to do better the next time. When you make an agreement and fail to follow through you change your energy flow. When you rationalize or make excuses you further change the flow of your energy and begin to create a tangled web around you. Stop, take a moment to reflect and make any necessary adjustments. When there is a birthday party at work, celebrate fully but pass on the cake. Believe me; a month later no one is going to remember you didn’t eat cake at their party! Remove yourself from the temptation to “just look” at the mall when you’re committed to having manageable debt. Trust me, the store, will be there ready and willing to accept your money when you’re ready!

Living in integrity sets a new pace for our lives. When we tell the truth, keep our promises and respect ourselves we align with integrity. Our energy begins to flow like a smooth, tranquil river with life’s beauty thriving all around us. We feed others by giving freely from our infinite inner resource. As we raise our consciousness, we raise the consciousness of others. We love more because we are more loved. Living in integrity changes our entire outlook on life. Make a promise to yourself to live in integrity each and every day. It’s a promise worth keeping.

Sharon Marquart is a gifted Certified Personal Coach, inspirational speaker and author. For more than 13 years she has share with audiences large and small. http://www.Livingatyes.com She is the author of “Working For God,” “Living With Soulful Purpose,” and “Creating A Wedding Ministry.” Her latest e-book, “9 Steps to a Happier Healthier You” is now available at http://www.livingatyes.com. Her coaching practice is Living at YES!(You Embracing Spirit) where she passionately supports clients in identifying mistaken beliefs and self-limiting thoughts. She coaches them in getting unstuck, setting intentions and living possibilities! Sharon teaches via tele-classes and facilitates tele-groups and e-courses. Her coaching clients are nationwide. Sharon is committed to bringing Metaphysical and Spiritual Truths into everyday language and applying them to everyday life experiences. Sharon is the Director of Spiritual Coaching at the Coaching Academy of North America http://www.spiritualcoachingtraining.com.

By Pradeep Chaudhary

Most of us, just keep dreaming about a good Job, a good home, good bank balance etc, but they just dream and forget it, because they dream for so many things together, they never even recall them. More specifically we can say its a “fleeting thought”. They never decide what is that they really want, and they never commit heartily to get it. Goal setting is an essential practice for yor personal and professional growth.

The process of setting goals helps in choosing, where you want yourself to be in life. By knowing exactly what you want to achieve, where you want to go, you can better plan and utilize your energy accordingly.

More than this, a properly set goal can be highly motivating, and as you get into the habit of setting and achieving goals, you will soon experience that you are more confident individual now.

The great Aristotle told “First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end”

Step 1: Choose Your Goal and Stay Focused on it
When it comes to choose a Goal, you might have so many Goals, but you have to prioritize them. Take a paper and pen and write down all the Goals you have and see which is the most important Goal and begin with that. The simple idea is, don’t set a lot of goals at the same time, because this way your focus won’t be on a particular Goal and ultimately you won’t achieve any of them completely.

The key to goal setting is staying focused. It is not that easy to focus at many goals at the same time, as easy you might be assuming it to be.

Step 2: Produce a Desire to Achieve your Goal
Desire, is what that keeps us working all hours. It is desire that keep us thinking, keep us busy doing things, keeps us working from 8am to 10 Pm every day. You can think of it as fuels that ignite us to do something. What ever we do, a design to do it successfully is a must.

Take a minute and think about the goal you’ve set for yourself and ask your-self, “how committed you are to achieve this goal”? Found the answer? Ask next question “will you ever give up during the process of achieving your goal”?

You are right if you are truly committed and won’t give up. A True desire is a must to achieve anything you want to achieve.

Step 3: Develop a Self-Believe
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”, if you notice this line closely you can easily understand that, if you conceive and believe, you can achieve. I repeat in bold letter “conceive and believe”. If there is a fraction of doubt in your mind that you cannot achieve something, you won’t be able to commit yourself to it. In order to achieve, you must believe it is possible and that it’s possible for you to achieve.

Step 4: Set a Deadline to achieve Your Goal
Having a deadline help you to plan your time, energy, efforts and concentration in a very systematic way. When you have a deadline set for yourself to finish a work, you will realize the rate of completion is very fast an accurate.

Take the following two situations for illustration;
Situation 1: you have been assigned a job/task and you do not have a deadline to complete it.
Situation 2: Same job is assigned to you with a realistic deadline and you finished it. Now realize which job you managed and finished better, in which job you enjoyed finishing… no need to say. It’s the second job for which you had a deadline.

It’s a human nature, when you have a sense of urgency, you won’t dare to waste any resources and put your best with a systematic planning to complete it on time. Deadline can always move you to take actions to achieve the task /job assigned.

Step 5: See your Goal with open eyes
As of now, your goal might be just a thought, whenever you seat and close your eyes you can see it, you can feel it. But now, see your goal with your open eyes. Open eyes? Yes open eyes. I want you to see your goal by open eyes. Write down your goal on paper and read it, see it, feel it.

Recall your school days, when you learnt your first rhyme in Nursery class. When you read and re-read a phrase the impression on the mind becomes deeper and deeper and chances are very less that you will ever forget those rhymes.

So to remember and feel your goal in front of you, please write it down on a paper and keep it on your table, or somewhere you can read easily and frequently.

Step 6: Identify the Obstacles
After having a clear picture of the Goal and the milestones, there is something else that need you attention. Gues!! You are right, the obstacles. There is nothing that you want to achieve and it ha sno obstacle. Obstacles are bounded to be there when it comes to achieve something. So you have to identify them and write them down on the paper.

When you have the Obstacles that you think you have in the path of achieving your Goals, it will help you to make more appropriate action/task plan to achieve you milestones.

Step 7: Identify the Resources You have
Now when you have identified the obstacles for your goal, you have to find out the resources you need and the resources you have. Identification of required resources are equally important, as because you will need them during the completion of your milestones and the goal.

Step 8: Define the Milestones
Now you will be making milestones to for your Goal. It’s always a best practice to divide the goal to milestones. Most of us, do not achieve our goal, just because it appears overwhelming when we see it. When we divide a big task to small tasks, it becomes easy for us to finish each task. Milestones are easier to achieve and shows the progress. When you see progress in task, you find more interest going ahead, and doing things.

Step 9: Define Task to Achieve Milestones
Now we are making the actual action plan to achieve the ultimate goal we have set for ourselves. To do this first of all lets again divide the milestones into easy-to-accomplish tasks. Task is the ultimate action we will be taking to achieve our goal. The idea of dividing the milestones into different tasks is just for the ease of action and execution.

Make sure to list all the tasks, even those you think, can be done in minutes, because you have to spare a minute for it. While working with a systematic plan and for a scheduled task, every minutes count.

Now when you have enlisted each and every task, you have to perform with deadline set, as to when the task should be completed, its time to real action now. Sort the task in order of date of completion, importance and chances of ease of completion. Once sorted out, start finishing the listed task and mark the task in the list as completed with date of completion for your self-analysis.

Once, you finish a task, mark them as completed and don’t forget to put the date of completion. Make an extra column for time gap, and write the time gap here. When you was supposed to finish the task and when you actually finished it. Highlight completed task with different color, so that initially, you can feel; out of so many tasks only these has been completed and as you progress, you will see ninety percent of the task has been achieved and then hundred percent. This task list is going to help you monitor your progress. It should be easy to read and should give you a clear picture of tasks already completed and the tasks that is yet to be completed. When you will have a look on this list, it will keep you motivated. Every completed task will motivate you to go ahead and complete the next task. Once you have done it, you achieved your Milestone.

Keep on finishing your milestones and finally achieve you ultimate goal.

By Lance Winslow

Many people are in a quest to accomplish a task work very hard not to let distractions side track them. How can some one avoid sidetracking, as they attempt to accomplish their goal? Well first you need to understand what a goal is. Let me give you my definition of what a goal is; A goal is the endpoint of a series of smaller goals and objectives.

This means a goal is a compilation of many smaller goals and the way to avoid sidetracking on the way to your main goal is to break down your goal in to many separate components with a time factor built in. You must achieve all the smaller goals on your way to the larger goal in order to get there.

You must consider each smaller goal as important as the larger goal and the finish line. To avoid sidetracking you must accomplish the tasks and objectives in the smaller goals along the way. You must treat the smaller goals as paramount and as important to you as the main goal. If you do not treat the smaller goals as important it is easy to get sidetracked.

For instance let’s say you’re in college and you want to get a degree in business. Very good idea, I approve and so do your folks. Getting a business degree is a worthy endeavor and I recommend it.

Now then, if you have a business test coming up that you need to study for then you need to break that information that you need to study into workable units and if you decide to go and party three nights a week and drink too much then you will not accomplish the objective for that test, which is a smaller goal, which you must achieve in order to get to the larger goal. Now you might say that it is OK not to pass a few of the tests along the way.

Indeed, but don’t forget there may be other problems in the future and if you are not on pace you may never be able to catch up because you missed one of the smaller goals along the way, too many of those and the little sidetracking you did will delete your chances of accomplishing that goal. This should always be in the back year mind to avoid you from sidetracking. And that is how you avoid letting your dreams and goals slip away. Please consider all this in 2007.

Lance Winslow, a retired entrepreneur, adventurer, modern day philosopher and perpetual tourist.

n short, Law of Attraction is all about vibes. Vibes are simply vibrations. Vibes are moods and feelings. The vibes that you send (generated from your moods and feelings), are either negative vibes or positive vibes which Law of Attraction is always responding to by matching and giving you more of the same. So everything you’re attracting is a result of the vibrations that you are sending. In short, what you’re getting is what you’re vibrating.Here are a couple of common phrases that are used that I’m suggesting we revisit, given what we understand about Law of Attraction. Are these phrases true?
“It was meant to be”
“The Universe is teaching me a lesson”
“It was meant to be”.
Often I’ll hear people use this expression when something shows up differently than the way they wanted it to be. People will say “I mustn’t have been meant to have it”, or “It wasn’t meant to be”. I believe the reason is it wasn’t a match to your vibration. Remember Law of Attraction doesn’t know whether it was meant to be; whether you should or shouldn’t have it; whether it’s good for you or not; or whether it was helpful or not. So instead of saying it wasn’t meant to be we could really say “I haven’t yet lined up my energy”.

“The Universe is teaching me a lesson”.

I would say the Universe is not in the business of teaching lessons or presenting things in your life to teach you a lesson. The Universe (Law of Attraction), only has one job and that is to match vibrations. So if you’ve attracted “it” then you must have vibrated it. Again, you didn’t get it to teach you a lesson; you got it because that’s the vibration you were sending.

Here are a couple of other phrases for you to ponder about.

“It showed up three times I must be meant to have it”. “That’s what the Universe wanted me to have”. “It’s in God’s hands”. “I attracted it to teach me a lesson”.

Some things for you to ponder.

Michael Losier, a Law of Attraction Trainer and author, supports people in understanding and practicing the Art of Deliberate Attraction, so they can have more of what they want and less of what they don’t. Michael has been applying the principles of Law of Attraction for many years and enjoys a wonderful and rewarding life in the city of Victoria, BC, Canada. He facilitates a number of in-person Law of Attraction seminars as well as Teleseminars to a worldwide audience.

For more articles by Michael Losier, Teleclass information or to purchase the book, Law of Attraction, The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t, visit www.LawOfAttractionBook.com.