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Author: Leon Jay

Often we complain loudly when an obstacle comes up in our life. It’s not fair! Why is this happening to me? But have you ever stopped and thought about why that particular obstacle has presented itself in your life?

Any situation that you do not like in your life is there for your benefit. There is a lesson that needs to be learned – and if you don’t learn the lesson the same obstacle will keep showing up in your life over and over again.

A good example of this is in relationships. Perhaps you have attracted a string of partners who all share the same pattern of not treating you well. Until you learn your lesson this pattern is going to keep repeating in your life.
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Author: Melanie Roum

Every now and then, you might find yourself in a bad mood. No one likes being in a bad mood because their energy seems low, they can be irritated easily, and life does not look pretty. This can decrease your productivity and send you into a negative spiral. Furthermore, no one wants to be around someone who’s feeling sour. A bad mood is a great way to bring those around you down into the dumps. So how do you shake off a bad mood?

It’s easy! Just try out one of these simple ideas to turn your frown upside down:

1. Get dressed. That’s right. Get up, take a shower, put on some nice clothes and gussy yourself up to the nines.

• Studies have shown that your mood has a lot to do with your self-image. How different do you think your self-image is between a just-rolled-out-of-bed look and a ready-to-hit-the-ground-running look?

• By getting dressed and doing what it takes to make yourself look good on the outside, you feel better on the inside. When you feel better on the inside, your mood changes significantly and you’re ready to face the day. Another bonus that comes with a positive self-image is an increase in self-confidence.

2. Get moving. Exercise releases hormones that help alter your mood. For example, cleaning your space gets you moving and makes you feel better about your surroundings. This also clears out clutter and makes your space more appealing. It doesn’t really matter what exercise you do. The idea is to just get up, get out, and get moving.
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Author: Inese Millere

Man is not disturbed by events, but by the view he takes of them. Epictetus.

Almost every minute of your conscious life you are engaging in a self-talk, your internal thought language. If the self-talk is accurate and in touch with reality, you function well. If it is irrational and untrue, it’s become self-destructive. You experience stress, emotional disturbance and unsatisfactory performance.

Albert Ellis developed a system to attack irrational ideas or believes and replace them with realistic statements. The basic thesis is that emotions have nothing to do with actual events. Between the emotion and the event is realistic or unrealistic self-talk. The self-talk produces the emotions.

Your own thoughts, directed and controlled by you, are what creates anxiety, anger, depression, damages health and affect performance.

What this means: we people have a choice to think in the negative or positive way. It’s up to everybody to choose one or another option. To make choices is an active process in which our will is involved. You have to want to change something if you consider that something is wrong with our life.
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There are two ways to improve the good luck / bad luck ratio in your life. One is to take steps to do those things that lead to more good luck. The other is to stop doing the things that cause bad luck. This lesson is about the latter. It is an examination of the actions, habits and thinking of unlucky people, so that you can learn what to avoid.

Six Things That Cause Bad Luck

1. Blaming. Blaming others - even when it is justified - is one of the most de-motivating things you can do. It puts things outside of your control and so things tend to “happen” to you even more - and sometimes these are bad things. It is fine to acknowledge that someone shares some blame for a situation, but then follow that immediately by asking yourself, “What can I do differently next time?” Put the control back in your hands.

2. Making Excuses. Really just another type of blaming, this bad-luck habit is often more subtle. For example, a real estate agent says, “I can’t sell enough homes because I don’t have the contacts that others have.” This might be 100% accurate. The solution, though - developing more contacts - is then ignored, because the real reason to say this was to justify his unsuccessful habits. Saying, “I know I can sell more homes by meeting more people and making more contacts,” is certainly more likely to lead to good luck (success) than the first statement, right?

3. Waiting For Luck. This is perhaps one of the worst bad-luck habits. Work invites luck, not waiting. While one man waits for his “ship to come in,” others are building ships. Unlucky people just wait, and let things happen - for better and worse - and so miss out on the many opportunities that are out there waiting to be seized.
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In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.

1. Pay attention to your breathing.

When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.

2. Live in the moment

Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.

3. Visualire Peace

Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.

4. Be curing and sharing person

When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.

5. Do not skimp on sleep

Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.

Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.

About The Author
Nisha Sharma is Staff writer at http://Womenbrands.com. She specializes in Women Psychology and issues. You can reach her at http://www.womenbrands.com.

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